depends on how much they are allowed to share, period. the child, when born, is a tabula rasa... it is us, the parents, who give them a shape, a state of mind, set largely by the contours of allowable behaviour that we set for them. in setting this parameter, we are driven by our own experiences... and there are two ways of reacting to our own framework... the more common reaction is to redo what we faced, trangress the limits we faced and set more space for the child to operate in. this is the outcome of our own unmet wishes, our way of rebelling against the cramped space we may have got as children; the other is to ditto what we have gone through as children and is an ideal case scenario since most of us tend to have assessments on what we faced as children and what could have been better had our parents been a little different...
whichever route we take, there is bound to be rethinking, at least periodically and many a times, we set the rope tighter for our child(ren) or give them more space.
the child(ren), like sponges, take in and absorb from every single experience, every single encounter... and each moment a small line is created on her/his/their minds...
so every censure they face, every condemnation of their action that we do, leaves an impression on their minds and will affect their next line of action...
The Hero’s Journey
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You sometimes put some idioms, which goes tangentially over my head. “Tabula rasa “ Wow. On the lighter side, yesterday while going to bed, on our bedtime chat, my daughter said ..”dad what is that thing, which has holes in it, but still holds water”. I was blank, and she said, “It is a sponge ….!!!”. And now your slimily. …. But its really fact.
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